关爱者、对话者、引导者：家长的多维身份及其自主建构

摘要

With the change of times and the diversity of society, parent’s identity is embodied in the regulation, change and maintenance of three main identities,which are the balance of loving,communicating and guiding,thus mak-ing the parent’s identity multi-dimensional and constructive. The loving identity is carried out by establishing, maintaining and moderating the distance of parent’s loving. The communicating identity is carried out by knowing the incompleteness of child self, activating child’s express of real self and cultivating the dialogue wisdom of“let them be independent”. The guiding identity is carried out by understanding and opening,communicating in freedom and closeness and the goal of the child’s development.%随着时代的变化及多元化社会的发展，家长身份体现其关爱者、对话者与引导者三种主要身份的调整、变化与维持，从而达到三者之间的动态平衡，形成家长身份的多维性与建构性并存的特性。关爱者身份通过确立、维持及亲近与远离的协调而得到实现；对话者身份通过认识儿童自我的未论定性、激发儿童自我的真实表达及养成“让…自立”的对话智慧而得到实现；引导者身份通过理解与开放中的引导、自由而亲昵交往中的引导以及为了孩子发展的引导而得到实现。