THE PROBLEM: Can a young man propose marriage and at the same time safely ask for a prenuptial agreement?

摘要

Last week my dad's lawyer threw me into a tailspin, and I'm still not recovered from it. I'm the youngest of three sons who all grew up on a farm in America's breadbasket and came back to farm after college. I'm 25 and engaged to Dana, who I've knownsince we met six years ago at Iowa State University. My parents like her and keep kidding about when the grandchildren are going to show up. Great, happy, normal family life, right? Right. Until Dad's lawyer calls. We meet for breakfast. He slides papersacross the table. "A prenuptial agreement," he says. "Your dad wants you to have Dana sign it before you get married." At first, I was like OK (maybe stunned is more accurate). But soon - especially after reading the agreement -1 realized what Dad was asking and what's likely to happen if I spring this on Dana.