溺爱迁就或严慈相济--《歧路灯》与《聊斋志异》中的家庭教育

摘要

As the only fiction that the theme is about education in China’s feudal dynasties, Li Lvyuan’s Qi Ludeng is worth parents reading and may shed some lights on the idea of constructing modern harmonious family education. Through the characters’ behaviors in this fiction, such as the improperly strict behaviors of Tan Shaowen’s indulgent mother, this paper shows how Tan Shaowen was led astray. But Xi Liu’ two sons were famous for rich, because he was good at grasping the education opportunity,strict with charity in the Pu Songling's Strange Tales of a Lonely Studio. Both Qi Ludeng and Strange Tales of a Lonely Studio are mirrors of family education, which elaborate the attitude of family education and the introspection of the educational methods.%作为中国唯一一部以教育为主题的古典小说，清代李绿园《歧路灯》中有许多值得当代父母学习和借鉴的内容。作品主人公谭绍闻的母亲糊涂、愚昧，溺爱迁就，最终造成谭绍闻无所适从，误入歧途；而蒲松龄《聊斋志异》中的细柳善于把握教育时机，适时施教，严慈相济，结果“使二子一贵一富，表表于世”。在家庭教育问题上，《歧路灯》与《聊斋志异》宛如镜子，映照今天依然面临的棘手问题。家长对孩子的爱，要爱之有方，爱之有度；对孩子的教育，要教育有方，教育得法。