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摘要

Based on personal experiences with his parents, a child develops an "internal working pattern for relationships", pattern that shall be, during his life, transferred to other persons [5]. The Type II trauma described by L. Terr addresses long lasting and repetitive weakness, helplessness and over-demand [6].The present paper aims to highlight the role of the therapeutic relationship in the accompaniment of an adult, lacking self confidence and trust in the world. For a child who became an adult, the childhood family factors (instability of parental couple, emotional disregard, disorganised attachement to mother), produced a Type II trauma and, as a result, a resilient avoiding behaviour as protective reaction to situations perceived as traumatizing.The anamnesis and the observation of the client, a single 32 years old man with university degree, managing his own business, revealed an avoiding personality without showing any criteria for a diagnostic of disturbed personality.The feelings of inadequacy accompanied by guilt are reactivated by a struggling couple relationship.The main goal of therapy was centered on developing the feeling of safety as a significant part of this process during the therapeutic relationship. This approach allowed the client to rediscover himself and it was the beginning of an assisted resilience process. Working on the traumatical memories was possible after the evaluation of the existing resources and after building new resources.The therapeutic attitude increased the client's confidence in change and facilitated a new relational dynamic.